The actors celebrated 23 years of marriage in October and, instead of resting on their old-married-couple laurels, they still put in the work to keep the communication flowing, the support uplifting and the spark alive. (And, needless to say, they couldn’t less resemble an old married couple on the outside.)
“Find a nice person,” Angela Bassett advised. “Someone who’s in it to fight, in it to win with you and who supports you. And on top of it, they’re really a nice person.”
Expanding on just how kind her husband is, the Oscar-nominated actress recalled in 2018 how Vance stepped up when, while planning their 1997 wedding and shooting How Stella Got Her Groove Back at the same time, she started to feel overwhelmed.
“It was like, ‘I’m trying to do this and I’m also trying to be Stella,'” Bassett said. “‘OK, it’s a lot going on here and I need you to step in and help me out with this.’ He was like, ‘What [do you need]?’ That’s all you have to do, is tell him to step in and he shows up for you. Not just for me, but for any of his friends, whoever he loves or whatever mentee may reach out to him. He steps up and steps in for you.”
After adding twins to the mix, daughter Bronwyn and son Slater, now 15, and maintaining impossibly busy careers over the years, it sounds as though Vance’s willingness to step up—and in—hasn’t changed a bit.
When he won his Emmy in 2016, he built up to a grand finish in his speech, thanking their children and then concluding, to much applause, “And last but not least, to the woman that rocks my chain! Angela Evelyn Bassett, this one is for you, girl!”